If you are in a committed romantic relationship and sometimes feel painfully disconnected from your partner, you would likely benefit from couple therapy. Increasingly, research is showing that people in secure and loving relationships are happier and healthier than people in relationships where they too often feel frustrated and lonely. Couple therapy is the most direct route to restoring loving connection, security, and trust in your relationship.

I practice a form of couple therapy deeply informed by Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT), which is based on considerable research on attachment theory and validated by a raft of outcome studies.

I am delighted to work with all kinds of couples, including varieties of sexual orientation, gender identity, and relationship arrangements. I have lots of experience working with same-sex and polyamorous couples. I also offer premarital counseling.

I charge $140 for a 60-minute session. Because it is rarely covered by insurance, I do not bill insurance for couple therapy.

If couple therapy is of interest to you, please email or call me and we can explore that possibility together.

Some Common Myths

In my years working with both individual adults and couples, I have noticed some common beliefs that keep people from taking advantage of what couple therapy offers. Let me address each of them here.

Myth #1: I can work on my relationship issues in individual therapy instead of couple therapy.

I have worked with dozens of individuals whose main reason for being in therapy is relationship distress. While they often experience marginal improvement in their relationship, it rarely succeeds in the way couple therapy routinely does. I strongly recommend that if you are having trouble in your relationship, prioritize couple therapy sooner than later.

Myth #2: We can’t start couple therapy until both of us are individually ready.

There are a few situations in which couple therapy is not recommended: when there is domestic violence (physical or emotional); when there is a serious, active addiction issue; when there is ongoing infidelity; or when either partner is in the midst of a severe mental health crisis. In these cases, individual therapy may be necessary before couple therapy can begin.

But in all other cases, don’t wait. You may want to be in individual therapy concurrently with couple therapy, but delaying couple therapy usually means that relationship issues will continue to deteriorate. Each partner will need to do their own individual work as part of couple therapy--that is a given. But couple therapy allows you both to do this in a coordinated way, which has powerful beneficial effects.

Myth #3: We should delay couple therapy and try to solve our problems on our own.

Of course, every couple has issues and many of them can and should be addressed by the partners together on their own. But if you begin to feel that a pattern is developing that creates regular feelings of disconnection or resentment, or that certain topics can’t be talked about without triggering painful interactions, it is time for couple therapy. Do not hesitate. The most common reason relationships fail is that couples wait too long to address the kinds of systemic issues that couple therapy can often resolve.